Why Early Social Skills Matter More Than Parents Realize

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When children learn to read and write, parents understand the importance of practice. Social skills work the same way.

Friendship skills, emotional regulation, and communication abilities form the foundation of a child’s future relationships.

Research consistently shows that children with strong social-emotional skills tend to:

  • Adapt more easily to school environments
  • Develop stronger friendships
  • Show greater emotional resilience
  • Perform better academically
  • Experience fewer behavioral challenges

These skills don’t just affect childhood. They influence how children navigate teamwork, leadership, and relationships throughout their lives.

Early Childhood Is One of the Most Important Windows for Developing These Abilities

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Between ages four and six, children begin learning how to:

  • Negotiate play
  • Handle frustration
  • Understand fairness
  • Interpret others’ emotions
  • Resolve disagreements

For some children, these skills develop naturally through everyday experiences. Others benefit from more intentional guidance.

A structured social skills group can provide the support children need to practice these skills in a safe and encouraging environment.

Through play-based activities, guided interaction, and therapist support, children gradually build the confidence and emotional awareness needed to thrive socially.

Programs like Social Safari are designed to support this stage of development by giving children the chance to practice real-world social situations while learning skills they can carry into school, friendships, and family life.

Sign up your child for Social Safari Skills Group today!

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Why Some Children Struggle Socially and Why Practice Makes a Difference

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Many parents assume that social skills come naturally to children. For some kids, that’s true. But for many others, social interactions require practice, guidance, and patience.

Children must learn how to:

  • Read facial expressions
  • Interpret tone of voice
  • Understand personal space
  • Regulate emotions during play
  • Navigate conflict with peers

These are complex skills that develop gradually.

Some children are naturally more cautious or sensitive in social environments. Others may feel overwhelmed by noise, activity, or group dynamics. Still others may struggle with impulse control or emotional regulation during play.

The important thing for parents to remember is this:

Social challenges are not character flaws, they are skill gaps.

And skills can be taught.

When children have the opportunity to practice social interactions in a structured environment, they begin to build confidence. They learn how to approach peers, express their feelings, and recover from social setbacks.

Social skills groups provide something children often don’t get in everyday environments: guided practice with supportive coaching in real time.

Instead of being corrected after something goes wrong, children receive encouragement and gentle redirection while social interactions are happening.

Over time, these small moments of practice add up. Children begin to feel more confident participating in group activities, forming friendships, and navigating challenges with peers.

Programs like Social Safari are designed to create these practice opportunities in a playful, supportive environment where children can grow socially and emotionally.

Sign up your child for Social Safari Skills Group today!

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3 Signs Your Child May Benefit From a Social Skills Group

3 Signs Your Child May Benefit From a Social Skills Group

At Restored Pathways Family Counseling Collective, we often meet thoughtful, caring parents who share a similar concern:

“My child is bright and kind, but social situations seem hard for them.”

Maybe your child wants to make friends but doesn’t know how to join in. Maybe playdates end in frustration or tears. Or maybe your child prefers to play alone even when other kids are nearby.

These experiences are more common than many parents realize.

Social skills are not something children are simply born knowing; they are learned and practiced over time, just like reading, sports, or problem-solving. With the right support and opportunities to practice, children can grow tremendously in their confidence and social understanding.

Here are three common signs your child may benefit from a social skills group like Social Safari.

1. Your Child Wants Friends but Struggles to Join Group Play

Many children want to connect with others but feel unsure about how to start. They may watch other children playing but hesitate to approach or join the group.

Parents might notice things like:

  • Standing near other kids but not participating
  • Waiting for others to invite them into play
  • Feeling shy or overwhelmed in new social environments
  • Preferring solitary play even when they want connection

Joining group play requires several skills at once: reading social cues, knowing what to say, and feeling confident enough to approach peers.

In a social skills group, children get guided opportunities to practice these moments in a safe environment with therapist support.

2. Big Emotions Show Up During Play

Another common sign is when strong emotions appear during social interactions.

You might notice your child:

  • Getting frustrated when a game doesn’t go their way
  • Feeling upset when sharing or taking turns
  • Shutting down when something feels unfair
  • Having difficulty calming down once upset

These situations don’t mean a child is “too emotional.” Instead, they often indicate that the child is still learning emotional regulation and coping skills.

Social skills groups help children practice:

  • Recognizing feelings in their body
  • Using calming strategies
  • Expressing frustration in healthy ways
  • Recovering after disappointment

These skills help children stay engaged with peers instead of withdrawing or becoming overwhelmed.

3. Friendships Feel Confusing

For some children, social interactions can feel unpredictable or confusing.

They may struggle with things like:

  • Knowing when to take turns
  • Understanding personal space
  • Reading facial expressions or tone of voice
  • Deciding what to say during conversations

When these cues are difficult to interpret, children may unintentionally interrupt, dominate play, or withdraw from social situations entirely.

A structured social skills group provides opportunities for children to practice these moments with gentle guidance and real-time coaching.

Over time, children begin to understand social rhythms like:

  • Waiting for a turn
  • Noticing how others feel
  • Adjusting their behavior to fit the situation

How Social Skills Groups Help Children Grow

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A social skills group is more than simply putting children together to play. In a therapist-led group, activities are intentionally designed to teach and reinforce skills such as:

  • Communication and conversation skills
  • Emotional regulation
  • Problem-solving with peers
  • Teamwork and cooperation
  • Confidence in social settings

Children practice these skills through games, role-play, and guided activities while therapists support them in navigating real social moments.

Because the environment is supportive and structured, children often feel more comfortable experimenting with new behaviors and building confidence.

Introducing Social Safari

Social Safari is our social skills group for children ages 4–6, designed to help young children develop confidence, communication skills, and emotional regulation through playful, therapist-guided activities.

In Social Safari, children practice:

  • Making friends
  • Managing big feelings
  • Joining group play
  • Taking turns and sharing
  • Communicating needs clearly

All within a small, supportive group environment.

Program Details

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Spots are intentionally limited to ensure each child receives individualized attention. Sign up today!

Supporting Your Child’s Social Confidence

Every child develops social skills at their own pace. When children are given supportive opportunities to practice communication, emotional awareness, and cooperation, their confidence often grows quickly.

If you’re wondering whether a social skills group might support your child, Social Safari may be a great place to start.

FAQs – Frequently Asked Questions About Social Skills Groups for Children

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What is a social skills group for kids?

A social skills group is a structured program where children practice communication, emotional regulation, and friendship skills with peers. Therapist-led groups like Social Safari combine guided activities, games, and role-play to help children learn how to interact confidently with others.

What can I do at home to support my child’s social skills?

Parents play an important role in helping children practice the social and emotional skills they learn in group.

After each Social Safari session, families receive a parent handout that explains what we practiced during the group. These handouts include:

  • The focus of the week’s session
  • The skills children are learning
  • The activities we used and why we used them
  • Simple ideas for how parents can reinforce these skills at home

This allows parents to continue the learning outside of the group environment. Many of the activities can easily be incorporated into everyday family life—during playtime, conversations, or daily routines.

Our goal is not only to help children build skills during the group sessions, but also to equip parents with tools that support their child’s confidence, emotional regulation, and social development at home and in the community.

What age is appropriate for a social skills group?

Many children benefit from social skills groups during early childhood when they are learning foundational communication and emotional regulation skills. Social Safari is designed for children ages 4–6, a key stage for developing friendships and learning how to navigate group play.

That said, it is never too late to learn new social and relational skills. Social development continues throughout life, and people of all ages can benefit from practicing communication, emotional awareness, and connection with others.

For example, local relational coach Melissa Brosch, MA, runs the Conversation Club, a program designed to help young adults strengthen their communication and relational skills. Just like children, adults can grow in confidence and connection when given the opportunity to practice these skills in a supportive environment.

Whether a child is just beginning to learn how to make friends or an adult is working on strengthening relationships, social skills are learnable at every stage of life.

How do I know if my child needs a social skills group?

A child may benefit from a social skills group if they:

  • Struggle to join group play
  • Feel shy or anxious around peers
  • Have difficulty managing big emotions
  • Find sharing or taking turns challenging
  • Want friends but have trouble making them

These are common developmental challenges, and structured practice can help children build confidence.

What skills do children learn in a social skills group?

Children typically practice:

  • Communication skills
  • Emotional regulation
  • Problem-solving with peers
  • Taking turns and cooperation
  • Empathy and social awareness
  • Managing frustration

These skills support success in school, friendships, and family relationships.

Are social skills groups therapy?

Many social skills groups are led by therapists and incorporate therapeutic techniques, but they often feel playful and interactive for children. The goal is to teach practical skills through games, activities, and guided social interaction.

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Finding Meaning When Life Changes: What Research Says About ACT for Depression, Trauma, and Brain Injury

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Living with depression, trauma, chronic illness, grief, or a neurological injury can feel overwhelming. When life changes in ways we never expected, it can bring waves of sadness, anxiety, frustration, and a sense that things will never feel normal again.

Recent research is offering hopeful insights into approaches that can help people move forward even when symptoms or life circumstances don’t simply disappear.

One therapy approach gaining attention is Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT).

A New Study on ACT and Brain Injury

A recent research study examined how Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) helps people experiencing depression and anxiety after traumatic brain injury (TBI).

Researchers reviewed several clinical trials involving adults with TBI and found that ACT was associated with improvements in:

  • Depression symptoms
  • Anxiety
  • Psychological flexibility (the ability to navigate difficult thoughts and emotions)
  • Daily functioning and quality of life

These findings are encouraging because people with brain injuries often face emotional challenges alongside physical and cognitive changes. ACT offers a therapeutic approach that helps individuals cope with those realities in a compassionate and practical way.

But the importance of this research extends far beyond traumatic brain injury.

Why This Approach Matters for Many People

Many people struggle with experiences that can’t simply be “fixed” or erased.

You might be navigating:

Traditional therapy approaches sometimes focus heavily on trying to change or eliminate distressing thoughts. While that can be helpful, it isn’t always enough when someone is living with ongoing challenges.

ACT offers a different perspective.

Learning to Carry the Hard Things Differently

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Acceptance and Commitment Therapy focuses on helping people develop psychological flexibility, the ability to experience difficult emotions without being completely controlled by them.

Rather than trying to push painful thoughts away, ACT helps people learn to:

  • Notice and accept difficult emotions without judgment
  • Create distance from self-critical or distressing thoughts
  • Clarify what truly matters to them
  • Take small steps toward meaningful values and goals

The goal is not to eliminate suffering entirely, but to help people build a life that feels meaningful even in the presence of hardship.

Moving Toward What Matters

One of the most powerful ideas in ACT is that healing does not require life to be perfect.

You can still move toward:

  • Connection
  • Purpose
  • Growth
  • Joy
  • Meaning

— even when anxiety, grief, or difficult memories are present.

Research like this reminds us that recovery is not always about returning to who we were before hardship. Sometimes it is about learning new ways to live fully, even when life looks different than we expected.

Support Is Available

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If you are struggling with depression, trauma, grief, or the emotional impact of a medical or neurological condition, you don’t have to navigate it alone.

Working with a therapist can help you develop tools to manage difficult emotions and reconnect with what matters most in your life.

At Restored Pathways Counseling, our therapists work with individuals and families experiencing trauma, anxiety, grief, and life transitions. Our goal is to create a supportive space where healing, resilience, and meaningful change can take place.

If you would like to learn more about therapy or our services, you can visit our website: restoredpathwayscounseling.com

Reference

Feroz, A., et al. (2025). Efficacy of Acceptance and Commitment Therapy in improving depression and anxiety in adults with traumatic brain injury: A systematic review and meta-analysis. South African Journal of Psychology.

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The Long-Term Benefits of Insight-Oriented Therapy

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“Nothing ever goes away until it has taught us what we need to know.” – Pema Chodron

Understanding Psychodynamic Therapy

Psychodynamic therapy isn’t just about fixing what’s wrong right now — it’s about creating lasting, meaningful change from the inside out. This approach helps you dig into the root causes of emotional struggles, giving you the tools to understand yourself better and navigate life with more clarity and confidence.

The Science Behind Psychodynamic Therapy

Our brains are wired to protect us, which sometimes means burying painful memories or creating habits that helped us survive difficult moments but no longer serve us. Psychodynamic therapy helps untangle these patterns by tapping into neuroplasticity — the brain’s ability to change and adapt. Research shows that when we process difficult emotions and reframe our narratives, we actually create new neural connections, reinforcing healthier ways of thinking and relating to others. This science-backed understanding helps explain why insights gained in therapy can lead to long-term, lasting change.

Long Term Benefits of Insight Oriented Therapy

Uncovering Unconscious Patterns

We all have patterns of thinking and behaving that run beneath the surface, often shaped by past experiences. Through techniques like free association (just saying whatever comes to mind) and exploring defense mechanisms, therapy helps you spot these hidden patterns. It might be uncomfortable at first, but bringing this stuff into the light can be incredibly freeing. Over time, people often notice they feel less anxious, more emotionally balanced, and better equipped to build healthy, fulfilling relationships.

Healing Childhood Trauma

One of the most powerful aspects of psychodynamic therapy is its ability to help heal unresolved childhood wounds. Studies show that around 60% of people have experienced adverse childhood experiences, which can shape how we see ourselves and relate to others well into adulthood. Therapy offers a safe space to process these painful memories, release lingering emotional pain, and start building healthier, more compassionate ways of relating to yourself and others.

Embracing Challenges in Therapy

As Alice Miller wisely said, “Without realizing that the past is constantly determining their present actions, they avoid learning anything about their history. They continue to live in their repressed childhood situation, ignoring the fact that it no longer exists, continuing to fear and avoid dangers that, although once real, have not been real for a long time.”

Facing old wounds and uncomfortable truths isn’t easy — some sessions might leave you feeling raw or frustrated. But these tough moments often spark the most growth. Therapy is like emotional strength training: uncomfortable in the moment, but over time, it builds resilience and self-compassion. And you don’t have to go through it alone; your therapist is there to guide and support you every step of the way.Practical Tools and Techniques for Self-Discovery

Psychodynamic therapy isn’t just about what happens in the session — it’s also about the work you do in between. Many therapists encourage clients to practice techniques that deepen self-awareness and help process emotions. For example, journaling can be a powerful way to track patterns, process feelings, and notice recurring themes in your thoughts.

Mindfulness exercises, like body scans or breathwork, can help ground you when emotions feel overwhelming, creating a stronger connection between your mind and body. These tools empower you to actively engage in your healing process, making the insights gained in therapy even more impactful as they integrate into your everyday life.

The Power of the Therapeutic Relationship

One of the most valuable parts of therapy is the relationship you build with your therapist. It’s a unique connection where you can practice being vulnerable and honest without fear of judgment. In fact, research shows that 70% of therapeutic success is linked to the quality of the client-therapist relationship. This safe, supportive dynamic can actually teach you what healthy relationships look and feel like. Many people find that as they grow more comfortable in the therapeutic relationship, they also grow more confident setting boundaries, communicating their needs, and building deeper, more authentic connections outside of therapy.

Lasting Change Beyond the Therapy Room

Healing and self-discovery are ongoing processes, but the insights and skills you gain in therapy ripple out into every part of your life. Whether it’s feeling more secure in your relationships, handling work stress with more grace, increasing resilience or simply feeling more at home in your own skin, the benefits of doing this deep inner work are lasting and far-reaching. In fact, 77% of clients report lasting improvement after engaging in psychodynamic therapy.

Your Path to Healing at Restored Pathways

At Restored Pathways, we’re here to walk with you on this journey. Whether you’re navigating anxiety, depression, or unresolved conflicts, our therapeutic services offer a compassionate, powerful path toward healing and personal growth. Let us help you build a solid foundation for lasting change — Contact us today for a free consultation with one of our providers.

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The Role of Relationships in Mental Health

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“As traumatized children, we always dreamed that someone would come and save us. We never dreamed that it would, in fact, be ourselves as adults,” – Alice Little

Did you know that the relationships you had as a child can impact your mental health today? Psychodynamic therapy shines a light on these early experiences, helping you understand how they shape your current behaviors and emotions.

Adverse childhood experiences are unfortunately common, with approximately 60% of people experiencing at least one. This means millions of children each year endure events such as neglect, emotional abuse, or other forms of trauma. These experiences leave lasting marks, influencing how individuals perceive themselves and others.

By examining the dynamics of your past relationships, particularly those with primary caregivers, you’ll uncover patterns that may still influence you. These patterns might show up in the way you relate to friends, romantic partners, or even colleagues. Understanding these dynamics can help you identify and break free from cycles of conflict, insecurity, or emotional distance.

Each person’s experience is unique, whether it’s rooted in physical harm, emotional neglect, or other forms of distress. If you grew up in an environment where emotional needs were overlooked, you might unconsciously seek validation in your adult relationships or struggle to trust others. Psychodynamic therapy provides a safe space to explore these connections and work through unresolved feelings, fostering a healthier sense of self and stronger interpersonal relationships.

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Psychodynamic therapy also explores the therapeutic relationship itself. Concepts like transference and countertransference allow clients and therapists to delve into unconscious feelings and relational patterns. For instance, you might project feelings toward your therapist that mirror those you’ve had in significant past relationships. By examining these reactions, you can gain valuable insights into your emotional world and how it shapes your interactions.

As Ryan North, founder of One Big Happy Home, explains, “Our brains are wired for connection, but trauma rewires them for protection.” This survival mechanism can make it difficult to form healthy relationships later in life.

At Restored Pathways, we recognize the profound impact relationships have on mental health and aim to help you build healthier, more meaningful connections—starting with yourself. With time and reflection, you can move toward a more balanced and fulfilling emotional life. Allow us to partner with you on this journey of healing and restoration. Contact us today for a free consultation with one of our providers.

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Progressive Story Game: A Fun and Engaging Activity for Kids of All Ages

Progressive Story Game

The Progressive Story Game is more than just a fun, creative way to pass the time—it’s a powerful tool for developing storytelling skills, enhancing focus, and building peer-to-peer connections. Suitable for 2 to 8 players, the game encourages kids to work together to create a collaborative story, with each player contributing one sentence at a time. In this version, we also encourage children to incorporate an emotion into their sentences to further deepen their storytelling experience.

How to Play the Progressive Story Game

Here’s a simple step-by-step guide to get started:

1. Gather the Players: Have the group sit in a circle on the floor or around a table.

2. Start the Story: The first person (this can be the clinician or a player) begins the story with a sentence.

3. Continue the Story: Each player takes a turn to add one sentence, continuing the story.

4. Keep the Story Going: Go around the circle, with each player contributing one sentence to build the narrative.

5. End the Story: After several rounds (usually 2-5 turns per player, depending on the group size), the last player wraps up the story with a closing sentence.

Rules & Tips for Playing the Game

While the game is primarily focused on creativity and imagination, there are a few guidelines to help things run smoothly:

  • Minimum of Two Players: You need at least two players for the game to flow.
  • Maintain the Flow: Each player should finish the previous sentence before adding their own.
  • Flexible Length: The game can last as long or as short as you like, depending on the group’s engagement level.
  • Equal Turns: Make sure each player gets an equal number of turns by going around the circle.
  • Appoint a Leader: The clinician or an adult can act as the game leader, keeping track of the story if desired.
  • Support Younger Players: For younger kids who may have difficulty starting, the clinician can provide guidance by kicking off the story.
  • Challenge Older Players: To make the game more complex, introduce a time limit or limit the number of turns per player. You could also add a twist by requiring each sentence to include a specific emotion.
  • Adapt for Anxious Players: For anxious participants or those looking to practice confidence, allow the option of writing sentences down instead of speaking out loud and let them choose a peer to read it out loud.
  • Customize for Your Group: Feel free to tailor the game to suit your group’s abilities and needs, making it more or less challenging depending on the participants’ ages and skill levels.

Example of a Progressive Story Game

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Here’s how the game might play out with three players:

  • Player 1: There once was a puppy who felt bored…
  • Player 2: The puppy was cute and liked to play with his toys…
  • Player 3: The puppy wanted to go on a walk. He felt…
  • Player 1: Happy. He got his leash and gave it to…
  • Player 2: His mommy. He felt…
  • Player 3: Excited! He jumped up and down and wagged his tail…
  • Player 1: Until his mom put his leash on and took him outside…
  • Player 2: The puppy was happy and sniffing. He smelled a…
  • Player 3: Lion! So he followed the smell…
  • Player 1: To a school. And found…
  • Player 2: The lion had his lunch. The puppy felt mad…
  • Player 3: That the lion wasn’t sharing. And then…
  • Player 1: He growled and showed his anger. The lion roared at the puppy…
  • Player 2: The puppy and his mommy were scared, so he…
  • Player 3: Ran home, deciding he’d rather feel bored than scared. The end.

In this example, each player added five sentences, but the game can be as long or short as needed to keep the group engaged.

Benefits of the Progressive Story Game for Different Age Groups

  • Younger Children: For younger kids, this game helps develop language skills, expand vocabulary, and improve their ability to sequence ideas. By incorporating emotions into their sentences, children can also practice recognizing and naming feelings, which enhances emotional intelligence.
  • Older Children: Older kids and teens benefit from practicing complex storytelling, refining their ability to think on their feet, and honing collaboration skills. Adding challenges like time limits or special word requirements boosts cognitive flexibility and problem-solving skills.
  • All Ages: For kids of all ages, the game builds confidence in sharing ideas, fosters creativity, and nurtures empathy as players must pay attention to others’ contributions to keep the story flowing.

Whether you’re looking to boost imagination, develop communication skills, or simply have some fun, the Progressive Story Game is a versatile and engaging activity that adapts to the needs of every age group. Feel free to experiment with prompts, emotions, and story themes to create a unique experience for your group!

Looking for a community for your child to grow in their social-emotional development? Check out our Social Skills page to learn more about what we do or our Pinterest boards for some interactive fun and creative ideas we have used in our groups.

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Mirroring Movement: Why It’s Beneficial for Children

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Mirroring movement is a simple and engaging play activity where one person copies the movements of another, like a reflection in a mirror.

This activity can be particularly beneficial for children with disabilities, autism, or additional needs, helping to improve their physical coordination and gross motor skills. But really, it’s a beneficial practice for all children of different age groups both physically and emotionally.

Benefits of Mirroring Movement

  • Physical Coordination & Motor Skills: By copying another person’s movements, children practice and enhance their physical coordination, balance, and gross motor skills.
  • Building Relationships & Empathy: Mirroring activities promote collaboration, encouraging children to work together. It allows them to take turns leading and following, fostering empathy and understanding.
  • Mirroring is Important Emotionally & Cognitively: Mirroring fosters connection, understanding, and trust between individuals. Mirroring also teaches infants cause and effect, learning their behaviors impact others and is a healthy way for postpartum moms and babies to bond.
  • Emotional Validation: When someone mirrors another’s movements or emotions, it communicates that they are seen, understood, and accepted. This can be especially meaningful for children, as it validates their feelings and experiences.
  • Self-Expression: Mirroring offers a non-verbal way for children to express themselves. For children who may struggle with verbal communication, it provides a way to share emotions through physical movement, deepening their emotional communication skills. It also educates kids on common emotional struggles like anxiety and depression.
  • Enhancing Emotional Regulation: By practicing mirroring, children can become more aware of their own emotions and the emotions of others, helping them develop better emotional regulation skills. This can be calming and grounding, especially for children with additional needs.
  • Developing Trust and Bonding: The act of mirroring creates a sense of attunement and synchrony, which builds trust and deepens emotional bonds, especially in relationships between children and their caregivers or peers.

What You Need for a Mirroring Movement Activity

  • A minimum of two people (an adult and a child, or two children).
  • You can also adapt the activity for small or large groups, with one person leading and others mirroring the movements.

How to Do Mirroring Movement Activities

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1. Stand facing each other.

2. Designate one person as the leader and the other as the ‘mirror.’ The leader performs movements, and the mirror copies them exactly, like a reflection.

3. Avoid physical contact; focus on watching closely and mimicking movements.

4. Take turns being the leader and the mirror.

5. Movements can range from large, whole-body motions to subtle facial expressions. Start with slow, deliberate actions to ensure the other person can keep up.

Adapting Mirroring Movement for Children with Diverse Abilities

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For Children Who Struggle with Eye Contact:

  • Focus on hands or arms instead of faces.
  • Stand side by side rather than face to face.
  • Mirror movements using objects, like toy trucks or animals, to make the activity more engaging.

For Children with Limited Mobility:

  • Concentrate on moving just the arms, legs, facial expressions, or head movements.

For Children with High Energy:

  • Incorporate larger, whole-body movements such as jumping, arm swaying, stretching, crouching, or shaking to help them expend energy and stay engaged.

Looking for a community for your child to grow in their social-emotional development? Check out our Social Skills page to learn more about what we do or our Pinterest boards for some interactive fun and creative ideas we have used in our groups.

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How the Marshmallow Test Can Help Children Thrive and Teach Us How to Support Them

Practicing Self Control

One fun and simple way to help children recognize and practice self-control is through the famous Marshmallow Test.

What Is the Marshmallow Test?

The Marshmallow Test is based on Stanford University’s well-known “Marshmallow Experiment,” conducted by psychologist Walter Mischel. The original experiment was designed to study children’s ability to delay gratification, a trait linked to greater success later in life.

In the experiment, children were left alone in a room with a marshmallow and were given a choice: eat the marshmallow immediately or wait 15 minutes and receive a second marshmallow as a reward. Researchers found that children who could wait longer tended to fare better in life when it came to things like academic achievement, health, and relationships.



Recreating the Marshmallow Test at Home

Although we can’t replicate the exact science of the original study, we can use a smaller-scale version of the Marshmallow Test in our homes. It’s a fun way to teach self-control while helping kids understand their own behavior.

Here’s a step-by-step guide for trying it out:

Step 1: Purchase Yummy Marshmallows!

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You’ll need enough marshmallows for each child to have two. I like to use big, fluffy marshmallows (my personal favorite), but you can also substitute them with a treat you know they will love (and want more of).

Step 2: Explain the Rules, Clear and Concise

Once the kids are ready, I explain the test like this: “I’m going to give each of you a delicious marshmallow. You can eat it right away, or if you can wait 15 minutes without eating it, I’ll give you a second marshmallow. Either choice is okay!” Keep the tone light and casual.

Step 3: Handout the Yummy Treats

After giving everyone a marshmallow, I set a timer for 8 minutes. Depending on the age of the children, you may want to adjust the time. During this period, I make myself scarce, maybe yelling out from another room a reminder they will be rewarded for waiting.

Some kids will distract themselves by fidgeting, doodling, or humming, while others might hide the marshmallow or avoid looking at it altogether. If there are multiple kids in the room they may tease or encourage each other to eat the treat.

Step 4: Rewarding Their Self-Control

After the time is up, I ask the kids to show me their uneaten marshmallow. If I can’t find any nibbles, they receive a second one, and they can eat both treats right away! For those who couldn’t resist, I offer sympathy, “It’s really tough to wait for something that smells so good!” Try to keep the tone light and encouraging, no judgment or shame for choosing not to wait. Our goal is to strengthen their impulse control and delayed gratification, not make it into a power struggle.

Step 5: Reflect and Discuss

The real learning happens during the reflection. We talk as a group about what helped them resist the marshmallow, what made it challenging, and how they felt about their choices. Here are some great discussion questions to guide the conversation:

  • What helped you resist eating the marshmallow?
  • Do you think it would’ve been easier or harder if you were alone?
  • How did your friends influence your decision?
  • What would’ve helped you wait longer?
  • Can you think of other situations where waiting is important?

Why Self-Control Matters

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Helping children practice self-control, even with something as simple as a marshmallow, can help them build important skills that will benefit them throughout their lives. It encourages patience, decision-making, and the ability to delay gratification—all essential traits for success in school and relationships. In our world of technology, dopamine rushes and binging TV shows it can be difficult to teach and practice delayed gratification. Now is the time to teach them skills where they can fail successfully…which means learning and practicing a skill in a safe, encouraging environment where you can coach and guide them to further success.

And let’s face it, teaching life lessons through marshmallows is pretty sweet!

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Why Simon Says is a Great Game for Kids of All Ages…and Helps to Teach Emotions

Simon Says for Emotions

Simon Says is a classic game that never gets old. It’s fun, educational, and an excellent way to engage children in an interactive activity. Whether you’re working with preschoolers or older kids, this game is a hit every time!

This list of Simon Says emotion commands includes a variety of options—simple, funny, silly, and active commands—to keep things fresh and exciting.

What Are the Benefits of Playing Simon Says?

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Simon Says isn’t just entertaining—it offers several developmental benefits for children of all ages. Here are a few reasons why it’s a great game for preschoolers and beyond:

  • Enhances listening skills: Kids learn to focus on what Simon says (literally!).
  • Improves concentration and memory: The game requires children to pay attention to specific instructions and remember to act only when “Simon says.”
  • Promotes physical activity: It’s an active game that helps build gross motor skills while keeping kids moving.
  • Encourages following directions: Kids practice listening to and following multi-step instructions, which is key for cognitive growth.
  • Expands vocabulary: The variety of commands introduces new words and concepts.
  • Boosts cognitive development: By processing and responding to commands, children exercise their critical thinking skills.

Incorporating emotions and feelings into Simon Says can be a fun way to help kids develop emotional intelligence and awareness. Here are some examples of Simon Says commands that focus on emotions:

1. Simon says show me a happy face.

2. Simon says pretend to be angry.

3. Simon says act surprised.

4. Simon says give someone next to you a “feeling” hug.

5. Simon says act like you’re really scared.

6. Simon says show me what you look like when you’re excited.

7. Simon says pretend to feel disappointed.

8. Simon says show me what it’s like when you’re nervous.

9. Simon says pretend you’re feeling shy.

10. Simon says jump up and down like you’re really excited about something.

11. Simon says show me how you comfort a sad friend.

12. Simon says act like you’re confused.

13. Simon says make a face that shows you’re feeling proud.

14. Simon says show me how you feel when you’re frustrated.

15. Simon says pretend you’re feeling really calm.

These commands help kids explore different emotions, recognize facial expressions, and develop empathy in a playful way.

Let us know how playing Simon Says Emotions go with your kids or classroom! And leave us examples of prompts for us to use the next time we play!

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